How I've Learned To Live With a Sabotaging Bully

· mind,thoughts,awareness

An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.

“It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.” He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. 

The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”

The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”

I adore this Native American legend of the two wolves. It's a story I relate with deeply and perhaps you do too?

I feel that inside of me there lives 2 Wills.

Will #1 is a do-er. He is clear on his purpose, he is an action-taker. He feels powerful.

Will #2 isn't a do-er. He doubts his purpose and doesn't take action. He feels weak.

When I wake up, sometimes it's Will #1 who occupies my headspaces, other times it's Will #2. Lately, it's been Will #2. 

I'm in the process of creating my first ever Webinar which I'll be broadcasting 30th December this year. In the beginning, I was feeling pure excitement. ''How amazing it will be to add value to many people in one moment''? I thought to myself.

The more 'real' it becomes, e.g. the more action I take towards creating the Webinar. The more vocal Will #2 is. 

Some of the thoughts I've caught are:

''Who are you to talk about this''?

''Nobody is going to watch your webinar, you're wasting your time''!

and my personal favorite ''You're an imposter, you're going to get called out and seen for what you are''!

Ironically, I'm knowledgeable enough about the Human mind and thoughts to know 'Imposter Syndrome' is common. I also understand that the mind's #1 priority is survival and it will do anything to keep us out of danger. Negative thoughts are a personal favorite of the mind to keep us in our comfort zone and away from new and potentially damaging scenarios.

So how do I react when Will #2 pipes up?

I thank him. I send him some Love. I reassure this part of me to trust me.

The thing is, I've tried to 'get rid' of this negative chatter. It kept popping up, a bit like one of those Whack the Mole Games where the Moles pop up randomly and you have to whack them with a big hammer. This works sometimes, often is doesn't.

I accept this part of me and appreciate it for looking out for me. After all, our minds do have our best interests at heart.

Of course, I know this part of me if a crafty fellow. He will do his best to sabotage my intentions. A good question to consider is: If I was going to sabotage myself on this goal/intention, how would I do it? By knowing the answers to this, you can stay one step ahead of the inner-saboteur. We too can be crafty you know...

I'd love to hear your opinion on this too, can you relate to my experience? What does your inner-saboteur say to you?

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